I have a question for you…
When you look at a picture of you from 5 or 7 years ago – what do you see? Do you see someone who is better than you are today? Or do you see someone who was worse?
If you look at it and say “hey, these were my glory days, this was the time that I thrived”, I want to be straight with you and ask – where do you think your breaking point is? How long do you think you can stand feeling like this? How long will you be pushing those needed changes away and only dream about the life you had? When will it be the time that you RECLAIM your glory and START THRIVING again?
My own breaking point was several years ago when I was so messed up that I couldn’t even get out of the bed. I just didn’t see a point… Until it finally hit me that waiting for a miracle is a silly thing to do. Those are too rare and I can’t even win a 50 cent lottery… So yeah, no point in expecting things to change themselves.
If life has been cruel to you, I can feel your pain. And I know that it’s hard to change / stop worrying / start working on your dreams / change bad habits / deal with scary situations… These things are hard because they involve change. People don’t like it, because change is uncomfortable and involves unpleasant feelings.
But fortunately – you can make your changes gentle enough to be bearable.
The way to start improving yourself and your life GENTLY is doing that with self-compassion.
If you struggle with anxiety, forgive yourself for being so sensitive and allow yourself to get stronger in tiny little steps (journaling helps a lot here).
If you became extra lazy through the years, hug your love handles, chuckle at yourself and decide that it’s time to stop being Winnie-The-Pooh.
If you don’t know what to do with your life at all, just allow yourself to feel confused and agree to start somewhere. Don’t hate yourself for feeling scared.
The more you wait, the more life slips through your fingers. Don’t wait anymore and start making that change or solving your situation today.
Take out a piece of paper and write down one single thing you can do to improve your situation this day. It can be the smallest thing, just write it down and do it as soon as you can. Then check in with yourself – did it feel overwhelming? It’s ok, you did it anyway, it’s awesome, and you can leave your next step for tomorrow.
It wasn’t overwhelming at all? Well, maybe you can do another little thing? Or two?
You will know the answer because you will feel it. But guess what, you already started to improve your situation and it doesn’t matter if your next step is going to be tomorrow or an hour from now. That life you always wanted or even once had… That mental resilience, body, career, happiness – you name it – it’s waiting for you and you are going there.
Just keep taking those tiny steps until you look at the picture from 5 years ago and say “you know what, I am so much better NOW than I used to be”. (And if you can already say that now… I congratulate you because you are seriously AWESOME).
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Hi! I am author + writer on personal development, beauty, relationships and self-care, sharing insights through this blog since 2018. After years of practicing personal growth, emotional wellness and feminine lifestyle (plus 19 years in a thriving relationship), I share effective and tested advice to help you foster beauty, self-improvement and order in your life. Some articles are written by a small team of beautiful writers I trust.
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