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10 Things To Do When You’re Learning To Love Yourself

Learning to love yourself is a continuous, long process – so make it fun, pleasant and enjoyable!

Researched, written by Amber & The Team
Updated on July 9, 2023

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It’s not a secret that a lot of people seriously need more self-love, but for some reason, it can feel like what you need to accomplish is a little out of reach.

Because learning to love yourself is a continuous, long process.

You can’t expect it to happen overnight, especially if you’re used to negative self-talk that keeps criticizing you on a daily basis.

And for many people, this fact can feel really discouraging.

On the other hand, learning to love yourself should not be a source of stress – you have enough of stress daily anyway.

Instead, why not learn to love yourself in a kind, helpful and self-respecting way?

When you feel like you need more self-love, the first and the easiest thing you can do is to ease into self-love with self-care. Ask yourself – are you taking good, daily care of yourself?

Think not just about your body – good self-care includes your mental wellness too.

If you’re out of ideas, here are 10 things you can do when learning to love yourself, so the process is fun, pleasant, and full of real love for your body, mind, and soul.


10 Things To Do When You’re Learning To Love Yourself


1. Start Choosing Healthier Food


One of the first places to start when learning to love yourself is nutrition.

You can ease into a better relationship with your inner self by making good choices of things you put in your body.

Having good nutrition is a really simple way to make sure that you’ve taken care of yourself physically.

Checkmark that, and you’re on your way to making major improvements in your self-love game.

If you don’t know how to eat properly, start by exploring different food options with a little bit of research on the internet.

You can learn easy and healthy recipes for meals that will help you to feel satisfied and give you what you need to start, continue and finish your day right.


2. Bit By Bit, Start To Organize Your Life


Learning to love yourself also means living in a way that makes you respect yourself.

The way your home and workspace look can be a huge influence on how you feel about yourself and your life each day.

When you have a cluttered, dirty, or simply unpleasant environment, it’s easy to feel like you’re trapped in a nightmare of chaos.

You can organize your life bit by bit yourself, or seek the help of people who are professional organizers.

Once you’ve organized your life a little and see yourself making progress, you’ll notice that you feel a little better about yourself as well.


3.  Prioritize Self-Expression


When learning to love yourself, you should also evaluate your self-expression needs.

Do you ever make yourself seen?

Do you have a way to express your creativity, talents, and abilities?

This is important because self-expression is a very important part of our mental health.

If you feel like your spirit needs something as a form of expression, try getting into something that helps with that.

You can try taking a painting class, learning a new instrument, changing your style, starting dancing lessons, or taking up some other lovely activity.

As long as you’re working towards expressing yourself, you’ll feel that your self-love is growing too – just because you’re achieving and learning new things.


4. Pamper Yourself


As I’ve mentioned before, learning to love yourself should feel pleasant, not stressful.

This is why pampering and soothing techniques are a must for anyone who wants to love themselves more.

If you don’t know where to start, choose massage!

And don’t think that you have to schedule expensive massage sessions – you can also give a massage to yourself.

You only need a dry brush, some massage oil, or – optional – a powered massager, if you like.

Massages are great for relieving stress because giving yourself gentle, caring touches actually calms your nervous system (just be sure you know a little about the body before you go poking around sensitive areas!).

Be gentle, be loving, and try to touch yourself with loving kindness, making peace with every part of your body along the way.

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5.  Take Care of Your Daily Hygiene


When you feel sad, it can be a lot harder to take care of your daily hygiene needs.

I swear, sometimes taking care of your physical appearance can be the only boost you need to pull yourself out of the darkness.

For example, having a healthy and soothing bath can do wonders for basically anyone because it lowers your stress levels, and that means?..

Better mood, and more self-love.

Not only that, but when you take better care of yourself, you also look a lot better, which is a major boost for your confidence.

If you’re just learning to love yourself, start with basic self-care and hygiene on a daily basis:

  • Taking showers.
  • Brushing your teeth.
  • Keeping your hair healthy and tidy.
  • Taking care of your skin.
  • Making sure you smell fresh.

Daily hygiene should also include the cleanliness of your clothes.

Do you ever find yourself wearing the same set of clothes daily until they’re visibly dirty?

Take time to do laundry regularly so you can put on something comfortable and fresh anytime you want.

You’ll simply feel better with a feeling of cleanliness around your body (and so will the people around you).

An important thing to note: taking care of your hygiene should not be mistaken with unnecessary “rules” that our society has about a certain “perfect weight”, hair color, or even amount of hair you should have.

Remember – your body, your rules. You should do things that make you feel happy and healthy.

If you feel pretty the way you are, that’s awesome!

Keep it that way, just take care of your health.

And remember – your body is ALWAYS beach-ready!

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6. Treat Yourself To Your Favorite Snack!


Who said that learning self-love should be boring, or even worse – restrictive?

I hope I didn’t make it look like that.

Once in a while, show yourself some love by eating something you really like.

Whether you buy some fresh fruits or go to McDonald’s, nothing can put a smile on your face faster than a delicious treat you love.

And hey, it’s totally fine to eat that fatty and sugary dessert once a week, as long as you’re fully allowing yourself to enjoy it, and not doing it every day.


7. Sleep More (Or At Least Enough)


Sleep is one of the most important parts of the day.

It’s essential to get rest because sleep is the time when your body begins to repair itself.

A significant lack of sleep can manifest in bad mood, which is a real killer to any self-love efforts.

You simply won’t have enough energy to be positive, to take care of yourself, and do other things you need if you’re robbed of sleep.

Now, if you have insomnia or trouble falling asleep, you might need to change a few things.

For example, if you like to eat your dinner late, then you’ll have to eat your last meal earlier in the day so that your body can calm down by the time you get in bed.

You can also just try getting to bed earlier or easing into sleep with a gentle night routine. It might feel as though you are missing out on a few things to scroll on the internet (we’ve all been there), but you’ll be able to wake up earlier.


8.  Take Up a Lovely Hobby or Read


Sometimes people just need some time to exercise their mind, or just be entertained by their imagination.

One of the best things to do when you’re learning to love yourself is immersing in the world of creativity and imagination.

The best way to do those things would be to find a hobby or a few great books that you can read during your downtime.

And when you need more self-love, you can choose books with strong, self-loving women that can inspire you and teach you the confidence and self-assurance you need.


9. Exercise


People often forget how many benefits daily movement can have.

Various studies have shown (multiple times!) that getting daily exercise can be a great way to deal with stress, boost your confidence and improve your mood.

Thus, it’s a perfect activity to try when learning to love yourself too.

Also, the endorphins you get from physical activity can also make it easier for you to maintain positive self-talk, which is the perfect food for self-love.

Also read: How To Actually Enjoy Exercising


10. Let Yourself Have Fun!


Do you ever feel guilty for taking a day off or having fun with friends when there’s a ton of work to do?

A lot of people have jobs that force them to produce more and more work every day and it essentially saps out all the fun out of your life.

Make a change.

Allow yourself to have fun, laugh, and relax because it’s also a form of self-love – a free one!


Learning To Love Yourself Should ALWAYS Be a Fun, Gentle, and Pleasant Process


Don’t make it complicated.

Make it easy for yourself.

When doing any of these activities, try to speak to yourself gently.

Do not judge, do not criticize.

If it gets overwhelming, take a break.

There is no need to rush anything.

And when in doubt, simply hug yourself and say “I got you”.

Sometimes it works better than anything else.

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