What Do Men Find Attractive In Women

Updated on August 20, 2021 by Amber & The Team.

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It is often said that beauty is skin deep, but we can’t deny the fact that the first impression does play a very significant role. It is also true that between men and women, it is not always about beauty and looks – it is much more than that. But what exactly do men find attractive in women?

Fortunately, there have been a lot of studies conducted on this topic and they have given us plenty of insights into what the majority of men find attractive in women – no matter their specific taste. Surprisingly, sometimes it is not even intentional – there are some unexpected things that attract men towards women, which you might be surprised about. But guessing no more, let’s see what those studies been talking about!




PART 1 of What Do Men Find Attractive In Women – BEHAVIOR

Believe it or not, the way a woman acts and behaves can be just as important as the way she flutters those beautiful long lashes…


1. Just the Perfect Sense of Humor


In about everyone’s opinion, the sense of humor is among the most common things that men find attractive in women. But, according to studies, men and women have different choices and preferences when it comes to humor.

Humor is something that translates across all communication and is universally attractive. You can be sitting next to someone on a train or messaging a guy that you met on one of the few high-quality dating apps out there – a great sense of humor is something that will ALWAYS get a guy’s attention.

It isn’t always quite so straightforward though. There are a few differences between men and women and their sense of humor that you need to understand.

For women, those men who are funny AND appreciative at the same are considered perfect. Whereas for men, the woman doesn’t need to be funny herself – instead she should just be able to respond to their jokes and thus make them feel good (hmm…). Simply speaking, if a man is joking about something, and a woman gets the joke + laughs at it – bingo! The doors to that men’s heart begin to open.


2. Risk-Taking Behaviors


This goes both ways – both men and women like risk-taking behaviors and it can be a huge turn-on for both.

Men find it especially attractive when a woman is ready to accompany them and enjoy adventures and trips together. These activities can include mountain climbing, whitewater rafting, skiing, and any other outdoor stuff. Even if you don’t know how to do any of these, a lot of men would love to teach women these things (but you must be confident enough to take the risk!).

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P. S. While risky behaviors can be extremely sexy, you should always remember to stay safe, no matter what. If you don’t feel comfortable doing something, there’s absolutely no need to pretend that you like it, even if that’s something a man likes.


3. Independency


While men do like women to depend on them for certain things, studies have shown that men find attractive women that are independent, self-supportive, and not needy. They might like you to ask them for their help, but being needy turns them off.

Men seem to also like when women can make their own decisions, and manage their fears or insecurities without needing a lot of support from their men.


4. Kindness and responsibility


A nice personality does matter after all! Men won’t like you if you are rude and straightforward for no reason… Instead, men do find attractive women who are kind and caring.

A woman who knows how to deal with a situation smoothly is also appreciated by men.

These two traits are important because kindness gives min the heads up about a good relationship, while responsibility signals that a woman can be supportive, helping, and equal partner in every life situation.

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PART 2 of What Do Men Find Attractive In Women – LOOKS

We can pretend it’s not true, we can pretend it’s not right, but beauty and looks are still extremely important to men when choosing a partner. Here’s what men find attractive in women appearance.


5. Mature Appearance


It is annoying and worrying when you see those grey hair popping out of your head, and you suddenly think that you look old… But, surprise surprise! According to some studies, men do actually like the mature look of a woman. The study showed that men who were born with older mothers (above 30) were more likely to choose a mature and a bit older woman for a long-term relationship.

However, that might not be the case in short-term relationships, where younger partners seem to be a preferred choice.


6. Pretty Hair


There is no denying that hair is one of those physical things that men find attractive in women. Sometimes, hair is the first thing that men notice in a woman, especially if it’s long, shiny, and healthy.

However, a survey was conducted on women where 71% of them said that they don’t expect their potential love interest to notice their hair! But men say that they do like hair a lot (especially when they are down, and some men prefer messy buns).

Another thing to notice is that men are easily turned off by the hair that has too many products in it, is greasy, very short, or dyed in a very unnatural color.


7. Red Lips or Clothes


Red is their weakness! It might be strange, but men really do like the red color. This color associate with passion, love, desire, and heat. It was thought that maybe men like this color because it arouses them (pinky hues remind them of vagina and labia, that is!), but studies have proven otherwise. It is not about sexual arousal, men just like the red color, and they can’t just ignore a woman wearing red – it’s so attention-grabbing!

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PART 3 of What Do Men Find Attractive In Women – SKILLS

There are some things that most women are born with, and they make men lose their minds for them!


8. Cooking Skills


Of course! It’s still a thing and the old saying that “the road to a man’s heart goes through his stomach” is still alive. Men do find it attractive when women can cook and fill their bellies with tasty foods. Cooking is also a sign of caring, and men love to be cared for!


9. The Ability To Create Beauty


Women are notoriously good at creating beauty everywhere around them – and most men like it! Decorating home, creating perfectly matching outfits and makeup looks, taking old things and making them look new – all of these skills are extremely attractive to men.

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10. That Motherhood Instinct


Most women tend to have a motherhood instinct, which means they’re naturally drawn to playing with children, taking care of them and, well, having them! The love for kids is practically installed in a women’s brain so women usually find it easier to care for babies and children than men.

Since men find attractive anything that signals them of a healthy mother for their children (ah, nature!), the motherly behavior can also be very attractive to a lot of men.

So, ladies, the mystery has unfolded. What do men find attractive in women? Everything that reminds them how beautiful, caring and different you are from them. So if you are taking your chances, adopt some of these tips, and see the magic you can bring on this world!

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